Have you found it? Would you know it if you came across it? Could you describe it to somebody if they asked you to? Perfection. It’s so vastly different to each person. What’s perfect to me might make somebody else run for the hills. What it is to you?
I’m sure a lot of people keep a checklist, if even a mental one of what their perfect is, of their perfect match, their perfect relationship. But what happens if you get so caught up in what you think is perfect, you totally miss the boat? I admit it, I have a checklist – of sorts. It’s not a very rigid one mind you, just a smattering of preferences I have as well as some show-stoppers, compiled from past experiences, mixed in with some girlie fairy tale wishes (I know, gag!). It’s not like I have anything written down, just things that, over time, have made me say “hmm, note to the file on that one” when I’ve encountered something a bit nutty, or something spectacular. Mostly it’s about knowing myself, and what works best for me, or what hasn’t worked previously. I try to be as open-minded as I can, so I don’t paint myself into a corner, but let’s be honest, there are just somethings we each know we don’t want.
What is perfect anyway? How do you know? By checking off items on a list, a gut feeling, what? And is perfect really perfect, or is it just having somebody who doesn’t drive you nuts on a consistent basis? I’ve found snippets of perfect here and there, but not in one overall package. If only I could do some Frankensteining to mash those bits together. But I do know this, perfection is solely in the eye of the beholder. I don’t actually expect “perfection”, just perfect for me.